This article is compiled by Preethi Sonia, a freelance writer with Proactive For Her.
Female pleasure itself is a neglected topic and safe sex practices between queer women is barely addressed. As a result many queer women do not feel comfortable discussing safe sex practices with a gynecologist, potentially resulting in STI’s (sexually transmitted infections) going undiagnosed.
In this article we tell you why safe sex practices between women are absolutely necessary. We also offer you tools to help you adopt these practices so you can enjoy being intimate with your partner without worry!
Sexual Health
Sexual Health is a holistic approach that emphasizes not just the absence of disease or dysfunction but also a positive and mutually respectful approach to sexuality.
A crucial aspect of maintaining good sexual health is having open communication and ensuring mutual consent and understanding with your partner. It is essential to do so before engaging in any intimate activities. Transparently sharing information about your personal desires, boundaries and health are vital to having a fulfilling relationship.
Why is Safe Sex Important for Lesbian Women
You may be of the belief that if you limit yourself to lesbian sex you don’t really need to worry about safe sex practices. This is unfortunately a myth. While having heterosexual sex is the easiest way to contract an STI, it is still very much possible to develop an STI even if confined to same sex partners. Therefore, taking steps to protect yourself and your partner is important.
We are all susceptible to STIs if we are sexually active. For example, 80% of women are expected to be exposed to the HPV virus in their lifetime. And many STIs lack external symptoms and so are not visible to the naked eye. STIs can persist in the body for years, allowing for the possibility of unknowingly passing the infection to a partner, even if there are no noticeable symptoms.
Most STIs are transmitted through the exchange of bodily fluids such as vaginal secretions and menstrual blood. Herpes however, can spread through contact with an infected partner's skin. Infections such as HIV can spread through the exchange of needles with your partner, regardless of their gender.
Safe Sex Practices for Women Who Are with Women
As a woman who enjoys intimate relationships with other women, you may be at a lower risk of contracting STIs such as Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus). But you are still susceptible to other infections like HPV (Human Papillomavirus), Oral and Genital Herpes, pubic lice, bacterial vaginosis (excessive growth in vaginal bacteria that causes an imbalance), and trichomoniasis (caused by a parasite which causes painful urination, foul smelling vaginal discharge and itching).
Safe sex practices therefore aid in overall wellbeing and optimal sexual health. Whether you are bisexual, pansexual, lesbian or a transgender woman, here are a few essential practices to consider:
Open Discussion - Before having a physical relationship with a partner, it is important to talk to them about each other’s sexual history, any sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or urinary tract infections (UTIs).
Condoms - Using female condoms (made of polyurethane) are an effective barrier to prevent any STIs. They can be used for any type of intimate contact you choose to have with your partner and are readily available online and in stores. They should be used correctly and consistently.
Dental Dams - This thin, flexible square piece of latex acts as a barrier during oral sex therefore reducing the risk of STI transmission. Proper use and disposal of dental dams are crucial. Avoid flushing condoms and dental dams. Wrap them in a tissue and throw them in the bin.
Sex Toys - Sex toys can contribute to the transmission of STIs and should be properly cleaned before use. It's best to have dedicated toys for each partner. If you prefer sharing toys, always use a fresh condom for each partner to prevent the spread of infections.
Regular Testing - Routine pelvic exams, pap tests and STI screenings are vital for anyone who is sexually active. Regular testing helps in early detection and treatment ensuring better health outcomes. Most queer women come in contact with health services less than heterosexual women as pregnancy isn’t a cause for concern in same sex intimacy. Sometimes they may also hesitate going to the doctor, with the fear of being judged or due to cultural differences as well. A proactive approach will protect you from any infections or help you address it in a timely manner.
Know Your Partner - Familiarizing yourself with your partner’s body will help you notice any unusual changes like the appearance of rashes, blisters, sores and discharge and to alert them to seek medical advice.
Self Examination - Regular self exams are just as important. Be aware of your own body and seek timely medical attention when something seems amiss. You owe it to yourself and your partner in having a responsible sexual relationship.
Trim Your Nails - While this may seem insignificant, scratching your partner on the inside of their vulva may cause a small tear and lead to an infection. If you still prefer to keep your long nails long, an alternative to prevent any injury is to use gloves. This smooth barrier will prevent you from scratching your partner inadvertently.
Respect Boundaries - Clear communication about boundaries ensures that you and your partner feel safe and respected. Mutual respect is the foundation of a healthy relationship.
Human Papillomavirus
Among all the STIs discussed thus far, we wanted to elaborate a little on HPV which causes cervical cancer and genital warts. Due to the belief that lesbian sex has a decreased chance of contracting HPV it results in delayed screening and subsequently delayed care.
Consider getting the HPV vaccine, which is administered in three doses and offers long lasting protection against HPV infections. It is also 97% effective in preventing cervical cancer.
Consultation Services
At Proactive for Her we offer consultation with our knowledgeable, non-judgmental and trauma-informed gynecologists. Whether you have questions about safe sex practices, the HPV vaccine, recommended STI screenings, or regular checkups, our team is here to provide judgment free, comprehensive care.
Any specific questions that you may have on sexual orientation would be best addressed by our mental health professionals. Our goal is that you have the information and support you need to make informed decisions about your sexual health.
Safe sex is an essential part of any healthy, fulfilling relationship. By prioritizing open communication, and mutual respect we can create a world where everyone feels empowered to love safely and confidently. Your health and safety are of paramount importance.
Here’s to celebrating love, health and empowerment!